Hello!

My parents named me Maile back in 88 and weve always pronounced it "My-lee". I learned today that that is from the colonizers and that its actually "My-lay".

My mothers family has been here for over 100 years, however I am mixed and grew up on the east coast. Dont even know if Hapa is politically correct anymore.

Im feeling very conflicted. I want to respect the culture, but having to change my pronounciation and correct others feels bizarre to me. Its a small difference in enunciation but if it didnt matter, I wouldnt get corrected.

Am i missing something? Im confused about my family, i dont think they mean any harm but i also find it difficult to believe that they didnt know.

Does the community have thoughts about this?

Thanks 🙏

Im currently studying accounting and finance at UH Mānoa, and I was wondering what salary I should aim for if I'm considering living here with my girlfriend. I know the Google search results can be a bit unrealistic at times so I wanted to ask residents directly.

Edit: the path and connections I'm planning to go through on would allow me to reach 100k alone by the time I'm 30. I've seen many posts saying even that's stretching it due to the high costs of living here, so I'm trying to get more accurate answers.

Edit: Thank you to everyone leaving such incredibly helpful advice in the replies. I know it's going to be rough trying to stay here, but now I feel more prepared and know what to expect.

I'm looking to have our chute repaired and it occurred to me that I'd like to get recommendations from other buildings. Is there a forum for exchange amongst building boards? Mahalos-

Hi! My name is Josh, and I'm someone that loves organizing! I have been facilitating events under our group, Pacific Tabletop Network!

We are a Honolulu-based tabletop board game meetup group. Our goal is to connect people through community and create a genuinely fun gaming environment for all backgrounds and cultures. All of our events are free or low cost & offer an inclusive space for adults to socialize and meet each other on island.

My focus is to offer a light activity where people can network, socialize, and have fun, with tabletop games as their theme. We typically meet Monday - Thursday evenings, with each event averaging an attendance of 16+ players! We are on Meetup, Instagram, and a website: PacificTabletop .Net

A frequent question that is asked is what games we play, who we are for, and our common demographics.

Our event tends to focus on light-medium complexity games that can play with 4+ players and within an hour. We try to prioritize the socialization aspect to make our venues more welcoming to someone with minimal tabletop experience. Our age average is mid 30s, but we preface that we are not a 21+ group. Our events have had children in the past accompanied by guardians.

Some often played games include Catan, Splendor, Ticket to ride, Code names, Blood on the clock tower, Coup, Betrayal, Dice Throne, King of Tokyo, ETC.

Our group frequents collaborations and partnerships with other people on island, so if these sort of games aren't to your liking, I'd be more than happy to assist with any questions you may have, or helping you get connected :)

Hello!
Formerly known as “Honolulu Horror Nights,” we’ve continued as “Hawaii Horror Nights.” We are having our fourth event on November 13 at NextDoor HNL. We are screening “My Love?” And “Light a Fire in Me” directed by local director, David Rowlands and shot here in Honolulu. It will be the second-ever screening of this movie and we hope you can join us. Tickets here on a sliding scale

I’m early 30s male that moved here not long ago, looking to make friends to go out with.

Little about about me

- I work in IT so into the latest tech
- single
- live on west side
- spend a lot free time at the beaches over here
- weed smoker/occasional drinker
- into going out to events or bars to meet women
- into watching UFC, not really into watching any of ball sports though
- also into hiking and water sports, I just rent the large stuff when needed.
- not religious, so if you’re easily offended we can’t be friends

Anything else, just ask. Just be cool to have someone that into same stuff to hangout and bullshit with.

Aloha everyone!

I'm Moroccan American living here on Oahu, and since our diaspora on the island is pretty tight-knit, I wanted to put out some feelers on Reddit to connect with fellow North Africans, Middle Easterners, or anyone from the broader Arab diaspora who calls the island home.

I'm looking to expand my circle and make new friends-whether that's grabbing some tea or Middle Eastern/Mediterranean food in town, catching soccer/sports matches, hitting the gym, or getting outdoors and exploring the island.

If you're from the region, connected to the community, or know of any active local group chats/meetups happening around Oahu, feel free to drop a comment or shoot me a DM. Would love to link up!

Shukran / Cheers!

I’m in Honolulu on vacation and I’m a biologist. I’ve noticed quite a lot of pigeons in the area with missing toes, missing feet, and bulbous growths on their feet. Has anyone else noticed this?

Aloha all, I’m craving dumplings like the Bibigo steamed/boiled ones but would prefer to support local if budget allows. Anyone have suggestions for pre-made frozen ones at grocery or mom-and-pop stores? Not looking for sit-down restaurants unless they let you buy a frozen bag. Not XLB, har gaw, or siu mai.

My ideal would be a store in Chinatown, but I go regularly and have yet to locate one. Maybe bc I don’t read Chinese so cannot tell on the bag if it is local made or not. 2nd ideal would be a local company that sells in town’s DQ, Times, or Foodland.

I tried searching this sub and [r/Oahu](r/Oahu) and Google searched. The only results were Char Siu House in Chinatown (I’ll check it out), YYK in Aiea (too far no car), and maybe Waikiki Snack Store (Northern style). Hoping there’s more options out there!

Edit: I was in the area of Waikiki Snack Store, and they’ve changed ownership and store name as of Oct 2026. The new owner and cook are really nice. They don’t do dumplings but said the previous owner still does on WeChat.

just a down to earth real place to have fun and bar back and make some decent money for the hustle backing up these bartenders. not looking for corporate, handbooks, and bullshit. maybe someone knows? thanks.

Just need a place that isn’t crazy in price and are decent. Thanks! Preferably shops that know how to fade good because I’m half black w/ black hair.

Hello everyone,
I will be in Honolulu from October 26 - November 6 and would love to get to know someone along the way. I’ve been single all my life. I’m not sure whether it’s unfortunate or luck, but I’m good and still in no rush. If it’s meant to be, it will be right so going with the flow and also would love to make new friends. Don’t worry, I won’t kidnap you. I’m more like Wes in voicemails from Isabelle iykyk. For your information, I don’t drink or smoke yet the coolest and funniest person you will ever meet. Trust me, I can take some great pictures too. Let me know if you wann join me.
It will be fun, exciting and adventurous.
Hope I’ll see you soon : )
26M
NJ

Hi everyone! not sure if this is an appropriate place to post this but i am trying to sell 3 VIP daniel Caesar concert ticket in Honolulu for Saturday November 14. Ticket includes:

• GA or premium reserved ticket to the show in the first 10 rows
• Access to an exclusive pre-show VIP soundcheck, led by the official band on tour
• First drink on Daniel Caesar with one voucher to the concession stand
• Early entry into the venue & priority check-in
• Exclusive Daniel Caesar VIP only gift item
• Official VIP laminate, lanyard, and wristband
• Crowd-free merchandise shopping before doors
• Photo opportunity in front of the Daniel Caesar VIP backdrop to commemorate your evening
• Designated check-in and on-site VIP event staff

Selling the 3 tickets as there was a major miscommunication between my bf and i and no longer need the tickets😿 Selling all 3 but willing to sell individually as well!

Prefer to do the transaction in person in honolulu area.

I’ve recently come across several publicly available Google reviews for Cajun Crab Waikiki mentioning complimentary fries being offered through a review event.
I also found a Japanese promotional advertisement on KAUKAU Hawaii offering free fries with a food order and review.
What concerns me is that Google’s policies prohibit businesses from offering incentives in exchange for reviews, regardless of whether they’re positive or negative.
It raises a question: Wouldn’t offering incentives for reviews potentially undermine the authenticity of the overall ratings and make them less representative of customers who would have shared their opinions without receiving anything in return?
I’m not suggesting that every positive review is dishonest or that these customers didn’t genuinely enjoy their experience. However, when a business rewards people for leaving reviews, I think it’s reasonable to question how accurately those ratings reflect independent customer feedback.
I believe customers deserve transparency when deciding where to spend their money, especially in a tourist destination like Waikīkī, where many visitors rely heavily on Google ratings.
I’m curious what others think. Does offering free food for reviews affect how much you trust a restaurant’s overall rating? Has anyone else encountered these types of promotions in Hawaiʻi?
I’m sharing this to raise awareness and encourage an honest discussion, not to encourage harassment or negative reviews.

Publicly available advertisement:
https://www.kaukauhawaii.com/editornews/277888/

Date night event! Halloween circus show at Samadhi Hawaii (330 Cooke St). Tickets are on the website. Speakeasy vibes as the circus is tucked away within another store...

October 24th, doors at 6:30 pm. Aerial circus acts!

As stated in the title. Just curious how raises and stuff work, and what they're based on (time in position, performance, etc.) I'm still in the job offer phase so I want to do a little homework before I ask them about this. Thank you.

A lot of questions for updates and amendments to the charter on this years ballot, some of them pretty in depth and complex. Curious people's thoughts on questions 13, 16, and 17.

Stunning View

Hello, I am thinking of starting or investing a business in the Philippines as a us citizen.

Does anyone know a solid lawer in Honolulu that handles those kind of situations? Thanks

Any night/dance clubs in Honolulu that allow entry to 18 and up? Mahalo in advance!!

Hey everyone! I’m 29, originally from California, and I’ve been living on Oahu for about 4 months now. I’m looking to meet some new people and make friends!

I’m into hiking, checking out different beaches, and going out for drinks 🍻. I’m always down to explore new places, try new things, or just chill and have a good time.

I’d love to meet some cool people to go on hikes with, hit the beach, grab drinks, or just hang out. If you’re also looking to make new friends and explore the island together, feel free to hit me up! 🤙🌊

Looking for swim school or swim instructor recommendations. For weeks I’ve tried messaging/ calling multiple swim schools and no one seems to answer or accept new students I’ve tried registering with cnc free course at public parks but my schedule never seems to line up with there classes times.
If anyone could point me in the right direction I’d really appreciate it :)

Looking for private lesson for one adult. I’m a beginner swimmer looking to better my freestyle 100m swim time . preferably in a pool