Niece is eight, brother is a single father. He’s dropping her off outside the closed campus of her elementary school, alone, without adequate clothing, over an hour before school starts.

He won’t let family watch her anymore because “she can take care of herself now”.

He’s not making sure she’s bathed, groomed, or brushes her teeth. She’s gone entire weeks without a bath until family takes care of her and gets her into a bathtub.

She’s making her own meals now.

He said he won’t help her with homework because it stresses him out and it’s the teachers job to teach so she shouldn’t have homework.

That’s just the tip of the iceberg. The social worker I spoke to asked if she had burned herself cooking for herself. I said not yet. She asked if she was beaten or sexually abused. No, my brother would rather make you want to jump off a bridge yourself just to get away from him. She asked if she was physically disabled and couldn’t bath or groom herself. I said no, she hasn’t learned how yet. She asked if another family member could teach her. I told the social worker we’re not allowed near her anymore, and her father would rather sleep or play video games than be a parent. They were out there two weeks ago for someone else calling in a report and they investigated and left. That’s not even the first time they’ve been out there. The school is filled with mandated reporters and they have had so so many instances to file a report for. Now I understand why they haven’t. No one cares.

I’d be completely shocked if they went to the house to speak to them. I am not the first to call, but it’s truly heartbreaking to report a family member and have a social worker make you feel like your family member’s neglect is their last priority. I didn’t know we were waiting for something truly horrible to happen before anything could be done.

I see a lot of people refer to their caseworkers as "social workers." In my state they're some kind of permanency/conservatorship caseworker in title and don't require a social work license for the role.

I figured people keep calling workers social workers because of how heavily ingrained CPS has been with social work and social services overall, but was wondering if in some states being a licensed social worker was a requirement to work in conservatorship.

I'm a former worker, I left awhile back. I got my license towards the end of my time there. You can't be a social worker in title unless you have an active and clear license and are working in a social worker role.

Pretty obvious from the title trying to figure out if I make a CPS report about possible child neglect can I stay anonymous? If I make the report, is there a way for somebody to figure out who made it. I’m not confident if I’m right on if this is child neglect and I don’t want it to backlash at me if I’m wrong. I know these things might vary from state state.

Sorry for any formatting. I'm on my phone.

Some backstory: my friend, Katy (34) has a husband, Mike (34). And a lot of this was told to me by Katy herself.

A year or so ago Mike cheated on Katy and it has been a shit show since.

She and him worked through it and went to counseling. But it didn't seem to help. He has been through periods of drinking heavily since. He chases his wife around the house yelling at her and blaming it on her and his drinking saying things like he resents her for making him a dad. He claimed he was stressed because she stopped being the breadwinner to be a stay at home mom for her kids, her health and her own mental health. He says she has no interest in her and she HAS to have sex with him at least every other day for him to be happy. He wants her to work out and be fit (she is a very skinny person to begin with). He accuses her of cheating.

They claimed it was because of the stress and that he worked second shift and never got to see any of his friends. But he also never contacted any of his friends. He got moved to first and his excuse for this round of drunken behavior was that he was celebrating. Well that drinking extended to the work week and he was coming home drunk from work and passing out.

During that week, their 5yo Bob threatened to kill his teacher and was given an in school suspension. When Mike was told, he said he would whoop his kids ass. When everyone was home that evening, Mike slapped his 5 yo really hard in the face. Katy picked him up and tried to console him and Mike yelled at her to not interrupt when he was disciplining his kids.

Now, my husband used to be really good friends with Mike. They used to go to highschool together. When I told him what happened he asked if Mike was kicked out, reported, divorced or anything. I said no and he suggested we call a child abuse hotline and report it because his behavior has just been escalating and we were worried about her and the kids.

So the next day I called. In the process the hotline asked me about the 5 yos behavior and any other concerning behavior with the kids. So I was honest and told them that two years prior, their oldest child (9years now but 7 at the time) showed odd sexual behavior towards my son (6 now but 4 at the time). On four different instances after he had been talked to about it. I posted it on my main account and got ripped to shreds for allowing my child to be in that kind of environment. So I subtly didn't allow them around each other unless it was in public.

She got a visit from CPS yesterday and messaged me confused. She expected the report about her husband hitting their child because the kids counselor had to report it. But she didn't know why they were also investigating sexual allegations that as she said happened years ago and was "taken care of." She asked if I talked to them and I had to come clean.

Obviously she is angry and upset. She keeps reminding me how serious it is. I clearly know that. She is scared her kids will be taken from her when they find out she smokes pot (it is legal here) and how much of an alcoholic her husband is. She claims her husband was taking steps to get help this past weekend and I should have talked to her about my discomfort with her children first.

But what was I supposed to say? That I didn't think her brushing it off as kid curiosity and it not happening again was handling it? That her children are disrespectful, don't listen, and just overall have poor behavior and I don't want to be around that or have my own kids around that?

I just want her and her kids to be happy and healthy. I don't want to hurt them. But now I'm wondering if I should have left the odd behavior from the oldest kid out of the report and only reported he husband hitting the 5 yo. Did I do what was morally right or did I offer too much information?

TLDR: my good friend's husband is an alcoholic and keeps making excuses for his poor behavior. The youngest of their children threatened to kill his teacher and in response the husband hit him in the face. So I reported them to CPS. In the process of questioning I brought up some weird behavior from their other kid and now they're investigating him for that.

My child’s been out of my custody since mid June. 90 day guardianship got extended. Have completed 4 weeks of inpatient rehab, 8 weeks of outpatient, attend daily aa meetings, and see a therapist. My dcf worker called and said my mom needs to get a full time job and her own car or “that kid isn’t coming back to that house” (her words.) she also called my mom manipulative, said she needs to get her shit together, and actually said she was the reason I am an alcoholic. Is this normal? Isn’t the case about me and how im doing? Why is my mother wrapped up in this? Should I get a lawyer?

I share my story here and get downvoted to hell. I was proven innocent day one of my case yet you guys think it’s justified to harass me? I lost my sister due to this case. Not CPS fault but that’s the type of shit that can happen just for having a case open. My birth experience and pretty much a year of my baby’s life were ruined by CPS. Why do you all act like that’s ok simply because I have Bipolar?