Long story short, anything like locs or braids are out of the question. When I get my hair cut (close to this) it just never comes out right, even if I'm direct about what I want and lower my expectations

They usually blow dry it straight, trim it, and restyle it curly. There's always too much on the sides, high on top and round. My hair always looks like an afro after a few days.

Problem is I can't just get a super masculine, shaped up haircut because I'm in the closet. Any help?

Me chilling with my gf. I think this this pic was cute. I love her. We're watching the Brazilian presidential election. She loves me before my transition and still with me. We're a bissexual and interracial happy couple 🤍🧡❤️

Having a dick is awesome! Please don’t let others discourage you from getting this surgery out of fear. If you think it’s for you, do it because trust me, this journey has been 100% worth it :)

Okay yall ive seen a lot of discourse in the lesbian community about this new dildo with a ftm stroker base, I need to know has anyone on testosterone tried it? I’ve only seen one review saying that the depth of the hole is not long enough if you have bottom growth. Buuuut I’m tryna see is it worth my dollars. It looks like it can give quite the sensation 😮‍💨💯

Like I feel my bottom growth is long but because of my anatomy I gotta do a crazy stretch if I’d wanna put it in someone but I’d be down to have a dildo that feels like an extension 🙌🏾💜

This been the best month of my life, and I’m getting gendered as my correct pronouns as of late ⛹🏾‍♂️

heyy,

i wanted to explore reddit a bit more. as a black transman in the dmv, there aren't many opportunities for me to find community (i have no social media since i want my frontal lobe to be intact by the age of 25 lmao). anyone looking for friends near the baltimore area?

Almost 6 but not quite
1st pic right after drains were removed
2nd and 3rd about a month after
4th 3 months post op
5th and 6th from this month making it 5 months post op
My surgeon was Dr. Orlando delucia in CT. Dude was great he’s also really knowledgeable and up to date on all things top surgery and his staff are phenomenal they will make sure everything is taken care of and that you have all the proper information and paperwork.

I’m genuinely so happy ! Any advice or tips on how I could pass more ?
And also this subreddit is so important to me because seeing alder black trans men give me real hope for the future (since I’m kinda a baby trans lmao I’m only 14 😭)
Anyway love u all ❤️‍🩹

I have known of my trans identity for 2+ years now and have been on T for 4 months. My voice has been dropping, and my family is starting to take notice. So, as I struggle with dysphoria and mental issues, I have the older women in my family constantly talking about how the things I do to affirm my gender aren't "cute".

Talking in a deeper voice = not cute

Dressing masculinely = not cute

Not wanting to get my hair done in feminine styles = not cute

Not wanting to wear shapewear or clothes that show off my figure = not cute

I'm so tired of feeling like I need to perform all the time so that they feel happy. I have more women in my family than men, so it's constant picking, prodding, gossiping, and belittling from them all the time. They were kind of supportive because at first they saw it as me going against the patriarchy and redefining womanhood by being a tomboy (that dresses feminine and acts feminine when expected), but now they are just degrading me and calling me names (mostly my mom).

They can be so abusive, and I'm in such a good place where I'm starting to feel like myself and feel affirmed more than when I was hyper fem (before I went through burnout and was just like "I wanna be me").

I still live with my mom (very religious and misinformed, but she's convinced she's right all the time), but my older cousin (used to be a nurse and was the first to point out my voice drop and straight up asked me, "Are you on the male hormone?" she called it progesterone, but I know what she meant) influences her a lot, and so they both talk shit about me in front of me about my voice.

I don't know what to do, and it feels like they make me feel ashamed and disgusting at times. I also get worried they'll find out. My mom has an idea because she's opened my binder, but I just tell her I'm a tomboy, and I've got them convinced my voice is deep due to practicing.

TLDR; My mom and way older cousin keep making comments on my voice and degrade me for my presentation almost all the time. As I progress on T, I'm scared it will only get worse.

Your boy is 1 year post op! Feeling amazing 💪🏾🤙🏾

Feeling a little bit of lonely, most trans men I know around me live far and I’d love to make a friend or two! If you are a trans man in Kenya please pm if you’d like to be friends 🥰

I won’t be location specific (where in Kenya) bc safety and you never really know what Rutos government is up to 👀

Hey Everyone

This is a repost, I woke up to my account suspended and my post removed by reddit on my end

They're mass reporting me on reddit aswell

I need your help, As some of you already no my names Titan, im A Black Trans Non Binary Gay Person.

I do a lot of work advocating for Black People & LGBTQIA Human Rights.

As a result of this ive been targeted by an Anti Trans /Gay White Supremacist called Frederick "Fred" Colaluca.

They are Threatening my life and have been doxxing my information online to various hate groups.

Please if anyone else has been harassed, stakked or threatened by this guy please contact me with any relevant information.

This is a life or death situation

Hey guys, I'm having a bad time with kinesiology tape (every trans tape is made with this material in my country Brazil). Be careful while using, if u have big breasts, I would not recommend it (my case). I'm theses bubbles were made bc I strechted the tape more than necessary. I also have a lot of glue on my skin, that's a terrible sensation. I'm sad bc I really enjoyed using it.

Hope everyone is having a great day. Definitely looking forward to a relaxing weekend

GUYS. MY TOP SURGERY CONSULTATION IS TOMORROW!!! 😭😭
I’ve been waiting for this appointment for MONTHS, and it’s finally here. I’m seeing Dr. Buckley tomorrow, and I genuinely cannot believe it’s happening. It still doesn’t feel real.
I’m so excited, but I’m also nervous because this is something I’ve thought about so much. I’ve spent so much time researching, thinking about my goals, and imagining what I want my chest to look like. I want a natural, masculine, athletic chest that fits the person I’m becoming, and I’m finally getting to talk through all of that with my surgeon.
I even wrote out all my aesthetic goals and questions because I KNOW I’m going to be nervous and don’t want to forget anything. 😂
I’m trying to remind myself that tomorrow is a consultation, not the day I have to have everything figured out. I just get to talk about my goals, ask questions, and take the next step toward something I’ve wanted for a long time.
I’m feeling about a million emotions at once, but mostly I’M SO EXCITED. 😭❤️

If you’ve had your consultation already, how did you feel the night before? And for anyone who has seen Dr. Buckley, I’d love to hear about your experience!

P.S. I can’t take minoxidil, my mom won’t let me cause of chemical burns I can get. I currently use a Gua sha and am on occasion voice training. I am also pre-t.

She’s threatening to kick me out cause she feels threatened by me taking testosterone. I don’t do any hard drugs, rarely drink, and I’m her homecare aid. She compares me taking testosterone with doing meth or cocaine. I’m hoping my grandfather will talk her out of it.

only asking this since my white therapist said that i sound masculine, and all thought they meant well and it did make me feel good i also know that black people will sound masculine to any person who isn’t black no matter what…so i decided to do this test to get y’alls opinion

edit: thanks for all of your input even if it did disappoint me a little lol. guess i just have to voice train until then

Okay, so I want to talk sexual attraction vs. a desire for long-term intimacy—or the ability to see myself with someone long-term. When I was living as a woman, I was attracted to men, though I rarely enjoyed intercourse with men unless assisted by alcohol (which, ayeeee—365 days of intentional sobriety as of 10/7/26!).

That said, I love women—no question there. I enjoy watching cis men when consuming porn, but I can’t help but wonder if that’s still a tie to what I don’t have yet, as I have not undergone phallo. I know that question is ultimately for me to answer, but I do know I don’t like intercourse in the sense of being penetrated.

I often feel that if I were to seek a long-term relationship with a man, he would likely be trans. Based on my lifetime of experience with cis men, I’m not particularly interested in a long-term relationship with them, but I often find myself physically attracted to a variety of men and masc-presenting nonbinary people.

To those who wish to contribute, tell me about your experiences—what has your journey looked like? I feel painfully certain in my desire to be with a woman long-term, but I was also once painfully certain that if I couldn’t drink, I couldn’t go. 😅