I recently posted an incident that happened to me on the Entitled People Reddit
, and I am receiving a lot of negative feedback.
I would love a critique from you guys on this.
I'll give you the essentials of the incident:as a thank you for squeezing me in for a dental visit, I decided to bring the dental practice a dozen donuts.
The Dunkin Donut shop next door was where I went.
A woman was in the middle of a transaction, involving a certificate, a partial refund, sign offs from another worker with an inexperienced cashier stopping the process each time the woman asked a question. I did something I never have done in the past, I asked politely if she would mind if I could just get a dozen donuts, since I was short on time.
I would have been absolutely ok with a 'no' , but instead, the woman now used every opportunity to slow down the process, asking unrelated questions, causing the cashier to stop, and regroup numerous times. She asked about free coffee day, had a conversation about staffing issues at the donut shop, and other irrelevant questions.
During this time, I was waiting in line not showing impatience.
She used so many delaying tactics that I realized she was doing it for spite. Even when her transaction was completed, she wanted her refund in bills so she slowly hunted in her pocket book to find coins so she could have the bills. After she left I said out loud that I was afraid she would give her life story. That was met by laughter.
One of the other patrons decided to buy my dozen donuts for me, since I deserved to have something go right in my day.
I've received a lot of negative feedback where most people are saying that I was wrong for asking to begin with, and I was acting entitled. My view was that a polite ask and a polite acceptance of a 'no' is not entitled behavior.
What's your view, please.

We live on a small lake and the house next to ours turned into a short-term rental in June. The owner used to live there before he moved a couple hours away, and now it’s rented out pretty much every weekend. Since July his guests have been wandering down our side of the shoreline to hang out on our dock. It isn’t even a nice dock. Half the boards are older than I am, and my husband pulls their beer cans out of the water pretty much every Monday.

Last Saturday I came home from the store and there were 6 people I’d never seen sitting on it with a cooler and a speaker, plus a kid fishing off the end, and when I walked down to see who they were a guy in a bucket hat waved his phone at me with the listing pulled up. It says “private dock!” right in the description and the main picture is OUR dock at sunset, taken from his yard.

I texted the owner to take our dock out of his listing and got back “they’re just sitting on it, it’s not hurting anything.” So I sent him a price. If his guests want the dock it’s $25 a day and they ask me first, or it’s not available.

Sunday a friend from down the road sent me a screenshot from our lake association Facebook group. He’d posted about a “dock Karen on the north side” who’s “charging families to sit on wood,” with the same sunset picture.

This morning the listing still says private dock. He just switched the main photo to one of the lake that has the end of our dock in the corner.

AITK?

TLDR: AITK for calling my son-in-law's grandmother to tell her that her best friend cannot live in my daughter's home anymore because she needs additional care?

My daughter, "Beth", F27 is married to "Bart", M29, and they are expecting their first child on New Year's Eve. For the first part of the last three years, they were renting a basement studio from Bart's grandmother's friend, a sweet lady Bart knew his whole life. She, "Mary", 81F owned the home alone since her husband passed away in the early 2000s.

Beth and Bart had signed a contract for rent to own because Mary knew she was only going to be able to handle the home for a couple more years. Sure enough, she fell down the stairs and broke her pelvis early in 2025 and was in a rehabilitation nursing home for four months before returning home. Since then, she'd grown far more sedentary. Then, in February this year, she fell and broke her collarbone and femur. She had suffered a stroke and wasn't doing well. She wound up back in rehab.

Her daughter, "Josie", F56, said it was time to sell the home to Bart and Beth. In May, they signed the papers, and they switched the living quarters because Beth had just found out she was pregnant and would need the additional bedrooms. The sale was handled, and they had moved Mary's belongings downstairs before she left rehab. Josie, Bart and Beth agreed that Mary could stay a couple months after the transfer until the assisted living place opened up. There was a wait list that was approximately 2-3 months long.

Mary left rehab in June and came home. But it was evident there was cognitive decline, and she needed a lot more help than either Beth or Bart could provide her (they both work full time). Josie would come over during the day for an hour to feed her and keep her company, but from 5:30 onward, Beth and Bart had to take care of her. It was taxing, but it was only for a couple months. The assisted living spot opened up in August, and Mary went for the evaluation to ensure they could handle her needs. Since the stroke, though, they said she exceeded the limits of their care, so she was not admitted.

Josie did some checking and discovered that selling the house to Bart and Beth meant that all of the estate was now in liquid form. Mary's nursing home care would run at least $5800 monthly and likely would move up rapidly. Josie has decided she's just going to let Mary live with Bart and Beth for as long as she can. No, they weren't fine with it. They argued with Josie, particularly because Mary keeps trying to come up the stairs, which is risky. Also, when she comes up, she will often turn on the stove and walk away, forgetting she put food on. Four times now, she's set off the fire alarm.

Bart and Beth were beside themselves. Once the baby is born, Beth will have four months' leave. She's concerned she'll be a full time caregiver for Mary when she's supposed to be bonding with Jadie (baby). She's also concerned about Jadie's safety. But Bart has been influenced by his grandma, who said she hoped Josie would never treat her like Bart was treating Mary by trying to make her homeless. He felt guilty. He said it just wasn't safe anymore. Grandma pushed back.

Josie, Mary and Bart's grandma decided what they needed to do was get a different stove with the controls at the top and install a lift...in a house that Bart and Beth now own. (They eventually want to convert the MIL apartment to additional family space.) But Bart is really conflicted. He loves Mary, but he never intended on being her caregiver.

So, I reached out to Josie myself. "Josie, Bart adores your mother, but they are in a new chapter in life and want to live alone. They don't want an electric stove. They don't want a stair lift installed. Mary no longer owns the home. The agreement for two months stay until assisted living didn't automatically extend just because she can't live there anymore. She needs a nursing home."

Josie argued with me, even telling me that I should be willing to pay for half of the nursing home since I was trying to "push her out of the only home she's ever known". I said that wasn't how it worked and that she had well over $500k in the bank from the sale of the home. She could afford to cover her own care. I pushed harder, telling Josie she couldn't dump the care of an elderly and fragile woman on a new mother just to save herself a few bucks. Josie was angry with me and hung up. Then, she called Bart's grandma and told her that I called. Bart's grandma called Bart, Bart talked to Beth, and I was labeled a Karen.

Beth was happy I reached out. Bart was on the fence. He felt it should have been up to him to push back, but I knew Beth's needs would be ignored. Josie and I have never really gotten along, so this didn't help.

This morning, Mary walked into Bart and Beth's bedroom and saw them there, yelling that there were "intruders" in the home. Beth called me, crying. I reached out to Bart's grandma, this time, and I said if she wanted to make sure her friend was well cared for, she either needed to talk to Josie or arrange for a nursing home herself. The only way this was going to be resolved if someone pushed back. So, knowing I was labeled a Karen with the first conversation, was I really the Karen for the second call? Nobody LISTENED!

I’ll try to keep this vague as I can for anonymity but my company had some professional photographs taken to be used for marketing purposes; physical letters, social media, own website. This is fine, I’ve done this multiple times, very normal.

Someone in a senior position has run the image through some AI programme and the image has returned in a new style with particular “enhancements”, more so for the women in the image.

I understand it’s a bit of a joke, I don’t believe this particular image will be used online, I cannot however say the same for any future imaging, as there is a strong interest in AI from said senior person.

I have objected not only to **this** image being used but have voiced I am not happy for any image of myself to run through an AI programme. Some team members are on my side, some think I’m overreacting.

Should I be bothered that my image has been used on AI without my consent? Are there any rules against this yet? Or should I just suck it up and accept that some people may find it amusing.

I happen to know some very nice people in this world with the name of Karen, and I think it’s very, very unfair that we keep tagging poor behavior and idiotic actions to one female name. On behalf of Karen’s everywhere, I am offended.

The original is on my profile, and thank you for all the comments, my mom got a real kick out of strangers on the internet being this mad on her behalf.

To answer what a lot of you asked, I didn’t pick “florist’s choice.” I ordered a specific arrangement off their website with pink gerbera daisies and orange roses, and that’s what my order confirmation says.

The other big question was what showed up at the funeral. My mom lives in a pretty small town, and on Thursday she told the whole story at her water aerobics class because of course she did. A woman in her class stopped her and said her sister-in-law’s visitation was that same Saturday morning, and nobody in the family could figure out who sent a big pink and orange arrangement where the card read “Happy 70th Mom, wish I could be there, love you.” That was my card, and it literally sat right next to the guest book the whole time.

My mom felt TERRIBLE even though none of it was her fault. On Friday she took the lilies over to the family’s house with the card off her fridge and a pan of lasagna. The daughter told her the shop gave them the same “it was only the card” answer and offered them 10% off too.

I filed the dispute with my credit card on Friday like a lot of you said. Yesterday I got a notice that the shop responded, and they’re saying the order was “delivered as described and accepted by the recipient.” They attached their delivery photo as proof, and it’s my mom on her porch smiling with the lilies before she’d opened the card.

The card company wants anything that shows what was actually delivered and where. When my mom mentioned the dispute, the daughter offered to write a statement for me. Her cousin took a picture of my arrangement at the funeral home too, and I can have that if I want it.

My mom shut that down right away. She doesn’t want a family that just buried someone pulled into a fight over $95, and she’d rather I let the dispute go. The daughter offered on her own, though. Would I be the Karen if I took her up on it anyway?

I got a quote for a service in town related to the purchase of our new home. I also called another local company for a quote as well.

In quote #1 I never agreed to anything, I just wanted to know the numbers and told them I was asking for quotes, and we may even wait until tax refund season.

Quote #2 said they were unable to do the job, and referred me to the company from quote #1.

The first local company freaked out, stated that company #2 said I was going to pay them to do the job (someone is lying here, they even said they couldn’t do the service and texted me this).

Company #1 proceeded to berate me saying they thought we had a deal, that they offered the best prices in town etc. I told them this is a normal practice, much like shopping for insurance, as consumers we look for the best deal. I even told them I’m not trying to screw them over, we were just looking for local options instead of going to the city 20 minutes away.

I tried my best here, was calm, and could’ve easily said “I’ll pay whoever the **** I want, it’s my house!” and tried to keep in good standing with this company. however, I can’t help but feel this person ITAH for these reasons:

They name-dropped themselves, said they knew almost every person in the town of 1600, and that people are mostly good ”around here” (FFS guy) as long as we don’t cause trouble basically. (corrupt small town sheriff vibe)

They give off insecure boyfriend vibes. Like I’m not allowed to take my business elsewhere, all while simultaneously lying about what I agreed to, both with them, and company #2.

Lastly, they even prefaced part of the conversation after I calmed them down with: “I’m not trying to be an asshole!”

All of the above is everything that makes them the asshole, and unfortunately I KNEW this would happen in a small town getting 2 quotes. He called ASAP after company #2 said they couldn’t do the job.

I grew up in small towns in the Midwest. I know small towns. I can even like small towns, but unfortunately, the same cannot not be said about the people. I’m not from here and they’re already trying to assert themselves and their territory.

I will likely be going to the city for this service in the spring, even though I WANTED to keep the service and money in the local economy.

My neighbor has repeatedly put her dog poop in our trash bins every time she and her unleashed dog walk past our property. She would literally walk into our driveway to reach the bins, these bins are not outside on the sidewalk to be clear.

So this has been caught on our camera many times but today we finally caught her in the act and my spouse went out and confronted her. His tone was first nice but I think he was also mad because this isn’t the first time. She then started yelling saying “this is public town trash cans! I don’t fucking care - why are you making a big deal out of this!!!” And she goes to say “this is such a white people thing for you to say! There are other stuff in the world!” My spouse just told her then too get the fuck off our property.

Like wth?! First of all we are not even white people lol and her tone and attitude were horrible and nonsense.

I recorded everything on camera too so if this happens again I think I’m calling the police.

Simply seeing if anyone got an update from OP on the Halloween mini session photo shoot in front of her house.

We go kind of overboard for Halloween at our house. This year the kids and I built a little graveyard in the front yard with plywood tombstones they painted themselves, some hay bales and cornstalks from the farm stand, and a fog machine (it only works if you kick it). My son made one of the tombstones for his hamster that died over the summer and he’s weirdly proud of it.

Last Saturday morning I looked out the window and a woman with a big camera was standing on our sidewalk telling a family I’d never seen before where to sit on our hay bales. When I went out to find out who she was, she told me she does Halloween mini sessions and that our yard was the cutest one in the whole neighborhood, which she said like that settled it. I said she needed to keep people off the lawn. She said they were only using the public sidewalk, and right then a little boy climbed up on my son’s hamster tombstone and it cracked down the middle. She said “oh no, kids!” and went right back to taking pictures. Before she left she gave me her business card in case we ever want family photos, which I think she meant as a nice thing.

That night I looked up her page. She’s selling “Spooky Mini Sessions, $65 for 15 minutes at a secret location” and the sample picture is OUR front yard, porch light and all. She had the next Saturday open for sign-ups too.

So I messaged her. I told her to stop using our yard for paid shoots, and if she really wants it that badly she can pay $20 a family and replace whatever gets broken. She sent back “it’s a public sidewalk hun, see you Saturday 🎃”. On Monday she posted in our neighborhood Facebook group that there’s a “Halloween Karen” on our street trying to charge small businesses to stand on a sidewalk, with a picture of our house.

Last night she posted that there are 2 spots left for tomorrow, and it’s the same picture of our yard. AITK?

My husband (48m) told me (47f) I’m being a Karen about this, so I figured you guys can tell me if I am.

We live across the street from a small park, and inherited an untrained dog after the sudden death of a relative last year. I’ll be honest, she’s big, older (9) and was never trained properly. We’ve got her to the point where she is walkable, but it’s still a huge change from the quiet farm she grew up on to a semi busy park.

We have a few dog owners in our neighborhood that feel like the park is their property. They let their dogs off of their leashes on a regular basis. There is one guy who plays fetch and frisbee with his dog every day; sometimes near the playground with little kids. Our dog, of course, goes nuts because she doesn’t understand why she can’t play too. She tries to pull us to the point we’ve almost been injured.

Would I be the Karen if I escalated this to the animal warden if he still does this after we talk to him? I’m really just hoping that someone in authority will talk to him and get him to keep Fido on a leash. The worst thing I’d want to see happen is a small fine if it’s still an issue.

TLDR, guy with a trained dog is making life more difficult for an untrained one. I’m prepared to escalate if it doesn’t stop.

UPDATE: I accept my Karen status even if it means my husband is right (you have no idea how much this part pains me). Is it worth having a conversation with the other dog owner (no threats, I won’t call anyone)?

EDIT: Also, we live in a small city that doesn’t have a ton of trainers. Our dog is on a list for training, and we are anxiously awaiting call backs from the first available one. It really was the worst situation possible — the owners death, the area, age and size of the dog — my husband and I are also allergic. We just want the best life for the dog until she passes.

EDIT 2: If anyone has any dog training creators they’ve had success with, feel free to suggest it. The majority of creators I’ve found want you to subscribe before they tell you what they’re going to do. I work for a nonprofit and do not have those funds to throwaway.

My mom turned 70 last weekend. I live about 3 hours away and couldn’t get there until Sunday, so I ordered a $95 birthday arrangement from a florist in her town to be delivered Saturday morning before her party.

What showed up was a big white lily arrangement with a card that said “With Deepest Sympathy.” My mom called me laughing and asked if there was something I needed to tell her, and HALF her friends were already there for the party and saw it before she did. I called the shop and the woman who answered said it was “a little mix-up” with another order and that both arrangements cost the same, so she could just print a new card. When I asked for the birthday arrangement I actually ordered or my money back, she said they were booked all weekend and lilies “work for any occasion.” She offered me 10% off my next order.

I asked to talk to the owner and he called me back a couple days later. He said the flowers were delivered on time and in perfect condition and it was only the card that was wrong, so there was no refund. He literally said “please don’t be one of those customers” when I told him white lilies with a sympathy card aren’t birthday flowers.

My mom thinks the whole thing is hilarious and keeps telling me to drop it, she even put the card on her fridge. I still paid $95 for birthday flowers and she got funeral flowers on her 70th. AITK?

So I tried signing up for Brightspeed internet a few years ago. They've stood me up for 3 install appointments with no call, text, or anything until I called them at the end of the day wondering what was going on. Last one was well over a year ago.

Today, I get woken up at 8am by an automated call telling me they're doing service in my area, and my internet may be affected. WTF, I don't have their internet.

I call them and ask them to remove my number from their system. He apologizes and immediately turns it into sales. NO, I've already been stood up 3 times and you can't get your act together. I have another service. Still he tries to pitch me with a $300 bonus. He can submit a form to have my information removed but it will take 15-30 days.

I'm really annoyed at this point and say there's no reason for it to take that long, and if he can't see to it getting done faster then just get me a supervisor. He assures me they can't do it any faster either, and I said "I don't even care, I've been woken up today and my time has been wasted enough by this company, I just want to make sure to waste as much of their time as a I can". I also told him I had no issue with him and I know he can't do anything about it.

Supervisor again tries to make it a sales pitch but only offers me $250 bonus and a higher price than the internet is offering. I ask about the $300 I was just promised and she says that's not a thing. WTF, why can't they even have a unfied sales experience?

I know I'm being a bit of a jack ass wasting their time, but I'm so sick of having MY time wasted. Ever single agent has given me their "personal guarantee" and every single time nobody has showed up. Them waking me up this morning with a phone call for a service I don't even have just really pissed me off. I know the call didn't make a difference, but it wasted a lot of time that cost them money and at this point I really feel that's the only way to get a large company to take notice to bad behaviors.

I (29F) work at a cafe that is located in an area with many activists. A few days ago during a slow part of the shift I got in an argument with a couple of the other staff about politics. I'll admit that I was a bit too direct with my statements, and maybe offensive for 2026, but I didn't really hold back on my more traditional/conservative views on the matter(its my right). I upset one waitress, and the other just rolled their eyes and left, I assumed that was the end of that.

The next day I was working the same part of the counter when a group of local teenagers(18-19) run up to the open bit by the window and proceed to throw eggs at me. They hit me with a few before I could do anything, and as I stood there stunned the other staff either lookedd shocked or tried to contain their laughs.

 Of course you don't know the context of the convo but i feel like egging someone for their views is pretty messed up.

AITK for the remarks that apparently triggered the egging, or are the kids the little karens for deciding that was an appropriate response?

i work in a medical office building in USA in a female member of housekeeping is always singing while she works. am i a jerk for finding it annoying?

Context: So I live in a quiet narrow street. 5 years ago all the houses were owner occupied. Now only 3 are left and all the others are rentals.

About 3 weeks ago the house across the street turned into a rental.

I think 3 men moved in, in a share house situation. They have 7 cars, all but one are parked on the street. One is unregistered. They have started building up rubbish in the front yard and for some reason have put black garbage bags on the windows.

One of the cars is always parked outside our house. Which is fine, the road belongs to everyone. Except, they parked in such a way that when I put the bins out I need to put them on my drive way (therefore I need to move them when I go out)

Will I be a Karen if:

1. I report the unregistered car to the council

2. Contact the real estate agents with concerns that something weird is going in (the garbage bags on the windows) and that the house is starting to look message after 3 weeks.

3. Put my bins out with one either side of the car

Also out of those 7 vehicles 3 are sign written vans for the same company. But only one ever goes to work/leaves it's parking spot.

First it was the tobacco smell, which I can understand. Then I sacrificed everything I had to quit smoking and started vaping; it was all lovely until now, as a new era has started, a new timeline, and she is nagging me about the smell of the vape which smells lovely—my god.