I just read that formula fed babies shouldn’t cosleep I had noooo idea. My daughter will be 10 months on the 18th, if I try to sleep train her now it will be a nightmare.

Can i continue? She sleeps so far away from me now on a queen floor bed. The other half of the time she’s climbing on me to sleep on my chest still

We have coslept most of the time over the last 2 years, save for the first couple of months where she was happy in her bassinet. I have loved it and still love cosleeping, however I am ready to move back into bed with my husband. He doesn’t want the kids in our bed, and I’m okay with that.

So far the arrangement has been I put the kids to bed, after they fall asleep I go to our bed. Once my daughter has her first wake I go back to bed with her and stay there for the rest of the night. I’ve been hoping that as she gets older and once we have weaned (which we are now successfully weaned a full 3 weeks now!) that her sleep would improve and we would get at least 2-3 days a week or more where she could sleep through the night and I can be waking up in my own bed. That’s similar to what had happened with our son who was an awful sleeper as a baby/toddler and now sleeps like a hibernating bear.

Any advice on improving my girls sleep and getting her to sleep through the night (OR at least sleep through for the first half of the night 😩). Needless to say I came to this community because I’m not interesting in any crying/classic sleep training methods.

Thank you!

I’m ready to stop cosleeping with my 10 month old, but I don’t know how to get started. My sleep quality but mostly my physical and mental health are starting to suffer too greatly for it, otherwise I would keep going.

We have been cosleeping since day 1 for both naps and overnight. He contact naps with his dad occasionally, but for 99% of the time he’s with me and nursing too. When his dad naps with him he has to hold him the whole time. He takes 2 naps a day, and I typically lay with him for both. For his first nap my toddler lays next to us and watches a show, for his next nap my toddler naps at the same time in his own room. This isn’t ideal for me but I don’t know a way around it. If I try to roll away for nap time, he always wakes up. At night, he does let me roll away, but I have to resettle him once or twice before I go to bed myself. He wakes every 2-3 hours at night to nurse and often is hard to resettle early in the morning for a long stretch.

I just don’t know where to start.

How do I get him used to the crib?

He’s a very sensitive little guy. He’s with me all the time, and gets upset when away from my arms most of the day. I just feel like it will never work. If even every time I’ve ever attempted to lay him down on my bed he’s woken, how can a crib work? He always has to be nursed to sleep while laying down (or bounced to sleep in someone’s arms- not mine though, always cries until he nurses).

I also don’t know what to do with my toddler during babies first nap because I don’t really trust him to hang out without me for very long while I settle the baby… he’s a mischievous little guy when on his own and way too high energy to hang out in the same room as the baby and I during put downs.

Any advice? Thank you x

My son is 5 months, we've been co sleeping more and more as he gets older and I start feeling more comfortable and confident with it.

My husband just showed me a "cute pic" of us sleeping he got last night when he came home from work. It is cute except I'm on my back and not on my side. Now I'm stressing about it. I honestly was so tired last night that I don't even remember falling asleep. I don't know if I rolled onto my back from c curl or if I fell asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow before I even had time to get into correct positioning.

As far as I know this has never happened before. I have always woken up in c curl if baby is in bed with me. I'm just so upset with myself and now I'm scared to go to sleep tonight.

My LO is 16 months old and still nurses to sleep. She doesn’t nurse during the day because she goes to daycare, and on weekends, she usually nurses only once during the day. Sometimes, she can also be gently bounced to sleep, but I always nurse her before bedtime.
She wakes up multiple times throughout the night wanting to nurse. On a good night, she wakes up around 3 times, and on a bad night, it can be as many as 6 times.
I’ve been trying to break the association by bouncing her instead. Sometimes, I think it’s working, but then she starts signing for milk. When I try bouncing her again, I get so frustrated because I’m exhausted and just want to sleep. It feels like we keep going around in circles. Her iron level is good, on the threshold but good.
She eats well both at daycare and at home. Her schedule is pretty consistent:
Daycare nap: 11:30–11:45 a.m. until 1:45–2 p.m.
Bedtime routine: 6:15–6:30 p.m.
Falls asleep: Around 7–7:30 p.m.
Wake-up: 6:30 a.m. (sometimes I have to wake her up for daycare).
I’ve always maintained a consistent routine, even when I was home with her, but she has NEVER consistently slept through the night. The only exception was when we were traveling abroad, and she slept for five consecutive hours once in the crib. But now she refuses crib at home at all costs.
My husband tries to help, but she refuses to be comforted by him at night and screams until she gets me. I also don’t want to force the issue because my husband works with dangerous equipment, and I want him to get enough rest to work safely.
I want to continue co-sleeping and breastfeeding, but I would really like to reduce the night wakings and stop nursing every time she wakes up. I’m not looking to stop breastfeeding altogether; I just want us both to get more sleep.
I’m just so tired, and I don’t know what to do anymore. I work too, at office, I’m still productive and not really tired during the day because I go to sleep early at 8pm so I can get some sleep even if it’s broken.
Am I doing something wrong with her routine? Should I change her schedule or work on gradually weaning her off night nursing while continuing to co-sleep? Or should I just wait and hope she eventually starts sleeping through the night on her own?
I’d really appreciate hearing from parents who have been through something similar, especially those who continued co-sleeping and breastfeeding but managed to reduce night wakings. What worked for you? How old was your LO when they slept through? My niece started sleeping through the night with 12 months and was weaned, she always bedshare with my sister.

I live in an old century home that’s been converted into apartments we do not control the thermostat or even know what it’s set to another tenant in the building has control over the temperature over the whole building however they like to turn the heat on and off based off how they are feeling instead of keeping it a constant temperature this results in it being freezing in the morning (like need a coat inside) to boiling hot by the end of the night my LO is 8 weeks old and we always start the night with her in her mini crib and by morning she’s in bed with me im guessing because she’s freezing any tips on how to dress her

Right now we put her in a cotton sleeper and I swaddle her with her arms out if she’s in her mini crib and just the cotton sleeper if she’s in the bed with me however as we move more to winter I feel like she’s getting cold in bed with me in just a sleeper I’m thinking on getting her a sleep sac but I have no idea how to go about the TOG because it’s never the same temperature

I EBF and have a little bit of anxiety when it comes to co sleeping and having fabric around her face so I’ve been sleeping topless with a pair of warm fuzzy pants and a blanket tucked at hip hight but now I’m also freezing while co sleeping what can wear that’s still safe (not super loose)

I bedshare with my baby (7 months) and now that it’s getting cold (our room is about 20 C, less in the morning) I have no idea how to dress baby. Right now i put her in a long sleeve body and a onesie pijama without feet ontop, but I’m not sure this is enough?? She HATES anything covering her feet like a blanket (I will sometimes cover her with my blanket while nursing her to sleep, not while I’m sleeping myself) and she hateessss it! She also hates baby sleeping bags and onesies with feet for this reason.

I’ve slept in basically the same outfit just to see how I feel, and it was definitely cold, but I don’t know what else I can do and also don’t want her to overheat.

Can anyone give me advice, or let me know if there is anything I can try?

Edit: I wanted to add that both my husband and I HATE having our house too warm, I’m already ‘suffering’ and it’s 20-22C, so definitely don’t want to turn up the heating.

My son is 7 months old and almost 30 pounds 😅 he is EBF and we have coslept since birth . He is happy all day and rarely cries, he naps 2-3 times a day and can be left alone in the bed and sleeps totally fine for up to two hours ! up to 4 months he was giving me 4 hour stretches but since then is continuously gotten worse and now he is waking almost every 45 minutes. He cries and is mostly soothed by boob or but patting and falls back asleep and this continues all night . I’m going insane… my husband sleeps with my two year old . I’m just so confused why he can nap for over 45 min but at night it’s the opposite ? I don’t think he’s teething since this has been for months .. I love cosleeping but man I’m tired and taking care of a toddler on top of this … any advice please

FTM here, my little girl has pretty bad reflux, if we lay her on her back at night she wakes up choking on her spit up and her nasal gets too congested for her to breathe properly for a good hour after waking up
We usually put her on our chest slightly elevated (although she seems to do fine completely flat on her tummy) I also like to lay with her we are both on our side facing each other and her head rests on my boob while my arm is under her head.

Just wondering how others are cosleeping with their reflux newborn and if there’s a safer position or alternative

We have tried flat on her back with incline in her bassinet but we run into the same breathing issue :(

I was trying to soothe my baby and get him to sleep so I put my palm on his chest so he can feel my presence as he only wants to sleep on me. And I fell asleep doing it. We were laying together on the bed.
Is it heavy?? It happened also yesterday. I’ve been so tired. He woke up himself hungry. I’m so worried if I had pressed his chest and restricted his breathing. I feel like puking.

How can I sleep in a cold winter without blankets if the bed is supposed to be free from blankets and pillows?

my husband and I have co slept with both kids (currently 4.5 and almost 2) since they were babies. Up until now, its worked well, but we’ve reached a point where one or both kids are waking up at night or too early in the morning and waking everyone else up. We’ve been sleeping so poorly. I want to transition my oldest to sleeping in his own room but he’s very anxious about sleeping by himself.

In all honesty, I also have some anxiety about him sleeping by himself because his bedroom is on the main level and the rest of us sleep in the basement. I’m also contemplating moving both kids into their room, but their bed is a bunk bed and the youngest knows how to climb up it but not down it and has gotten himself stuck (he’d obviously be sleeping on the bottom, but I’d be worried about him trying to climb up with his brother).

Advice on how to make this transition would be so helpful- especially anything around how to incentivize sleeping alone, kids books or tv episodes dealing with the topic, or specific words you’ve used with your own kids when letting them know they’ll be sleeping on their own.

Hi all, I love cosleeping and breastfeeding my 1 yo, but there are often times when he doesn’t sleep well, and the accumulated stress and repeated nursery illnesses are getting to me. He has split nights and crawls over to me to grab my nose, pull my hair, and I find myself shoving him off me, which makes him cry and makes me feel like the world’s shittest mother. Add teething to the mix for a child who refuses medicine, and I can’t help feeling that when he learns to walk he’s going to start jumping on me in the middle of the night.

I don’t know if we should just try putting him in a crib. He slept in a sidecar for a bit but we were worried about rolling so he’s not been in one for a while (and is used to bf from me all night, so there’ll be a fair amount of screaming I reckon)z

Perhaps a strange ask - what kind of bedsheets would you recommend?

Myself and my LO are constantly wiggling which causes the fitted sheet to come loose. I lose so much sleep just because of that and it’s a pain to always have to tighten the sheet before bed.

Please help!

Hi everyone!! I have a beautiful 5.5 month old. She is exclusively breastfed. I was tracking everything up until a month ago on Huckleberry and stopping tracking things has helped me SO much with my mental health.

In addition,we are co-sleeping. We have been since she was 3 months when one night we decided to try it and everyone FINALLY got sleep. Everything was going fantastic for both of us until the last 2 weeks. My girl is waking up 8-9 times a night for comfort sucking / feeding. I believe that she is getting a ton of calories throughout the night so she isn’t eating as much during the day. (She’s gaining weight properly and growing great). I really love co-sleeping but even when she was in the bassinet beside my bed, she was not waking up this much. I’m not sure what’s going on since this just started but any advice on how to get her to eat more during the day would be so helpful 😭 she’s getting 2-3 full feeds a day and “snacking” the rest of the feeds meaning she’s feeding for about 2-5 mins for the snacking.

I’m not opposed to moving her into her own sleep space (in our room of course). But I’m also not opposed to continue co-sleeping. I just really cannot do the 8-10 wakeups for another few months. Thanks in advance!

Things don’t go smoothly every single night but on average this is what my sleep looks like with my 7 month old. I go down within an hour of my baby who sleeps from ~9-7:30ish and get up when he’s up for the day. Every one of those wakes was me feeding and falling back asleep within 10-15 minutes. So for the roughly 9.5 hours I spend in bed I’m usually getting between 7 and 8 hours total. Before we started cosleeping I would have spent an hour trying to get back to sleep after every feed, sometimes 10 times a night!

My baby does really well with Sidelying feeding. He is 6 weeks old and we have been doing it since about 3 weeks only at nights. But the problem is it is killing my neck. I will switch between boobs at night every night so it’s not like I’m favoring one side. I do the c curl. Any pillow suggestions or advice overall? I just suck it up cause it seems it’s the only way we can both get some sleep and works really well for us. Just us two In a king bed

Anyone that coslept then transitioned to the crib at 4 months how did it go? Any advice?

Please don’t judge my desperation for sleep training 🫠

Baby girl is 4.5mo. We tried the bedside bassinet but after her first few days of newborn sleepiness wore off she absolutely could not sleep without being in contact with someone. At 5 weeks my spouse and I were just taking turns staying awake all night so she could contact nap, and I was starting to hallucinate, so we brought her into bed. It immediately got so much better. She is a stage 5 clinger — when she’s nursing to sleep she is restless unless both feet and both hands are touching me, and i have to either hold her hand or rest my hand on her back. If she unlatches and I manage to roll away, it’s like she can smell that I’m gone and will, without fail, wake up within 2-5 minutes. She has not slept more than like 20 mins in a bassinet or crib ever.

I’m okay with cosleeping — I enjoy the baby cuddles and I know that it’s temporary. But I do feel like I can’t sleep as deeply with her in the bed, and my spouse is such a light sleeper that they usually sleep separately. Recently I was talking about something at night and in a freudian slip, referred to the guest room as “[spouse’s room]”. It was kind of a wakeup call to both of us I think, that the baby being in the bed is affecting our ability to connect with each other. We’re still very loving and affectionate to each other but almost never get a chance to do more than hug briefly while handing the baby off.

Will she (the baby) get less clingy over time? Am I making her even more clingy the longer I cosleep? Sexual intimacy is completely off the table rn and idk if I’m prepared to go 2, 5, 10 years without that connection to them :( but i also can’t imagine that transitioning her to her crib will go any better than it did before. I’m also soooo tired i can’t really bear to sacrifice the sleep i currently get trying it out.

Currently my husband and I have been sleeping in different rooms, me with the baby, and him in our old bed. Now that she is turning 1yo, we want to transition to sleeping all together in the same room/bed. For the sake of safety and sleep space, (my baby demands a lot of personal space on the bed,) we are considering building a floor bed with a king and queen mattress pushed together.

Anyone who has done this for themselves—do you use a giant floor bed frame? Did you purchase it or build it? Or do you just sleep on mattresses on the floor? Any photos you have would be super helpful! I need some ideas on how to execute this.. 😅

Giddy about this but naturally I’m curious how our sleeping set up will shift.

We bedshare with our 19 month old on a king sized mattress that sits on the floor. He’s been in the bed with us since night 1. We had a babybay bassinet attached to our bed but I never had him in it - we just ended up using it to change diapers.

It’s hard for me to imagine my little bub sleeping in a different room or bed. But also hard to imagine him sharing a room with a newborn. He still nurses in the night so is a little more aware because of that I think. My plan is to night wean before baby is born but beyond that I’m not sure what to do.

For those that have welcomed their second, what changed with your cosleeping set up? Were you able to keep things the same? Or did they have to change?