I’ve heard people say that they would save their dog over a Random baby and that is insane. This even extends to the Clancy case where people are supporting a woman who MURDERED her 3 kids. People also calling their pets their “kids” is weird as shit. People are crazy and the world is going to shit

Whenever I've seen women talking about "he gave me the ick" it's always the same stuff my uncles and cousins would call me gay for doing because it wasn't manly. He used an umbrella when it was raining, he used his hip to close the fridge, he couldn't change a tire, he put his hands up on a roller coaster, he ordered a fruity drink, he knew all the words to a song by a female artist.

It just always seems to be things that are traditionally feminine. I think most "progressive" women still do desire men that are traditionally masculine, but they are acutely aware that it is antithetical to their beliefs to shame a man for not expressing masculinity in the ways they desire.

In a patriarchal society, women often serve as enforcers of the idea of what men should be, i'd argue more so than men because most men still pursue women and have to mold themselves into what women find attractive. So this way, those women can still serve that role of enforcement without it coming across as patriarchal.

It's misogynistic because it reinforces the idea that anything a man does that isn't "manly" is bad, and the opposite of "manly" is feminine and we assign femininity to a lot of benign things.

I am a young adult who works full time. I work in a place where most people are older than me. I asked for holidays off for this upcoming season and was told my requests off don’t matter as much because I don’t have children.

Mind you- I have friends and family of my own who I’d like to spend time with. Just because someone chose to have kids and then chose to still be a working parent does not mean much of anything to me. I don’t think it’s fair that I should have to work instead of my coworkers because I don’t have kids yet.

This is also not a critically important job. We don’t have to be working every single day of the year. I worked labour day weekend and was not able to spend time with friends or see family because I let the other people take it off so they could spend time with their kids before school started up again. This same courtesy is not even offered to me.

I will probably have to work Halloween, thanksgiving Christmas and new years this year because I don’t have kids. I work 5-6 days a week, 40-50+ hours and bend over backwards for my coworkers but if I ask for a weekend off (without dipping below 40 hours) I’m a nuisance.

Because I don’t have kids my free time and family are not held to the same standard and that doesn’t make sense to me.

Edit: I recognize that this issue is more about the management than my coworkers. Thank you all for pointing that out. Secondly, I also think if no one wants to work on a specific day (I.e. a holiday) then maybe this business shouldn’t be open on said day. This would be at no detriment to the business. I also have worked and picked up extra shifts on holidays for years in my career without an issue at previous jobs. I don’t mind working a holiday I do mind being the ONLY one working every holiday. And I also DO mind working holidays when I’m not providing an essential service.

I wrote this post when I was upset and angry. I will be having a discussion with my management team about this moving forward. I didn’t expect this to get so popular, so thank you for everyone that gave advice that was rational and professional.

I want to preface this by saying I don’t believe either one of these generalizations are necessarily valid but they are utilizing the same “a few bad apples ruin the bunch“ framework. I know that black men face overpolicing, disproportionate exonerations, disproportionate sentencing etc but those apply to all men since men are the majority of criminals.

A lot of guys hear every solution to their problems and still want to resign themselves to hopelessness.
And before a bunch of you say "I don't do any of those things." Or "I do all of this and I'm married". Then I'm clearly not talking about you.

A lot of you guys will say things like not wanting to "settle" when nobody asked you to. You say you're short,ugly, neurodivergent etc. and it's hopeless. Or you haven't god awful personalities and lack the awareness to improve those things, but blame anything and everything on somebody else. "It's women who are the problem."

Clinging to stupid ideals like "hypergamy" and "gold diggers" hold you back, and you cry foul and rage when women call you "incels" for thinking like antisocial weirdos. At the end of the day you're only holding yourself back. A lot of you hate hearing "Improve yourself" or "have confidence" but it's really what you need to do and it's the harsh truth.

Yet it's easier to complain, join echo chambers, play "But women", and embitter yourself than to self reflect and do the work on your negative qualities. You want a woman to fall into your lap against her will. Socialize, work on yourself, learn about the women you like, take on new interests and experiences, get offline a while.

It's hopeless because you say it is.

I am talking about disorders that are like actually serious and will make kid's life much harder, or can even lead to kid's death.

I don't care about the " but we love each other " thing, the fact that you want to have kids even trough you are very well informed, that kid will inherit your defect is disgusting to me.

Making a child that you know will likely suffer from the same thing you did suffer with, maybe suffer even more than you did, is just morally wrong

Edit: welp, i learnt about IVF. It is an insanely cool technology. I practically take my argument back bc of it. Now i only have problems with people that have severe disorders that they know will pass down to their kids, yet refuse to use IVF. Honestly learned alot from this post. About eugenics, about nazism. Even though this post is a form of eugenics, i think that the idea of this post was, way less radical than alot of people thought. I practically only meant that i am mad at people i was talking about, not that i want something to be legally enforced

quick test: imagine two siblings; the guy is tall, athletic, blue eyed and has nice hair, his sister legs for days, slender, also has blue eyes and blonde hair. They both will be generally considered attractive, if not even model-like, by many. Now imagine another two siblings: this time the girl is short, has thunder thighs, a fat ass, and bamby brown eyes. She doesn't have prominent cheekbones, but a rounded baby face. She will still be seen as attractive by many, men and women alike, despite not having the proportions of a runway model. Her stocky short brother is what the majority of people will call "meh"

— this is why so many people claim they see "beautiful women everyday" but say an attractive man appears once in a blue moon. A skinny girl is usually seen as hot, as skinny guy is generally seen as fragile, a overweight woman can be seen as thicc/voluptous to many, but a chubby guy is usually seen as out of shape, a pale gothic/alt chick who looks like she never saw the sun is still seen as a hottie by non-subculture men, a pale skinny goth dude will rarely be a non-subculture womans type. It is because societies mental image of "attractive man" is rather narrowly defined (tall, strong, athletic) compared to what makes up an attractive woman, which can range and encompass a variety of body types.

In regard to the Sabrina Carpenter Coachella thing, I’ve noticed a lot of people accusing her of being culturally insensitive and racist for her reaction to being interrupted by “yodeling” during her performance. Upon reading comments from other redditors defending Sabrina Carpenter, I’ve seen a lot of people saying “Sabrina thought the person doing it was white.” To me this implies that it’s okay to call white people out for annoying behavior but not POC. Idgaf what your culture does but annoying behavior is annoying behavior. Stop ruining things for other people by being loud and obnoxious.

Even in the age of information, where the sum of human knowledge is at our fingertips, humans vote for people who are openly vile and corrupt. I understand that democracy has brung about a lot of personal freedom for people, but pretending it's the pinnacle of human government and we can't possibly come up with anything better is just people being lazy. I don't have any ideas right now, but it is a problem.

Unless you have a legitimate medical reason to NOT receive a vaccine (i.e: allergies, conflicting medications, etc) you are extremely selfish, ESPECIALLY if you don’t get your own kids vaccinated because of what you were brainwashed to believe. There’s always a chance for side effects to literally anything (even your precious essential oils or other home “remedies”). IMO not getting your child vaccinated unless there is a legitimate medical reason is and should be considered child abuse. There shouldn’t be children dying from diseases and illnesses that are easily prevented by getting vaccinated. You’re not just putting yourself and your kids at risk, you’re putting EVERYONE at risk. That includes elderly people, pregnant women, children, people with compromised immune systems, etc. At-risk groups shouldn’t have to suffer or go into hiding because you don’t want to do what is medically appropriate and necessary.

Babies need to be fed. So a mom breastfeeding her baby in the train, at a restaurant, a park is non of anyone's business. If it bothers you close your eyes.

But asking women to feed their kids in the bathroom if they don't want to do that is ridiculous. Do you eat in the bathroom?

What is more horrible about this is when backlash also comes from other women "I fed my kid in the bathroom, why don't you" gee, I don't know lady, we are mammals and I can use a cover up and feed the kid in the train if I want to.

Believe it or not, women are not posed with stoic, blank, fuck-me expressions at all times. faces contort, chins wrinkle, hair frizzes. Women look like adults with imperfections and facial scars and real facial bones.

You've just never been around a woman long enough to notice.

Saw a comment asking for a “valid reason an older man would refuse to date a woman his age and instead go do a younger woman” in order to convince them. I think it’s been said numerous times over and over in multiple ways and it’s clear these people don’t want to listen.

But I thought about it and I think the real question is “Why do two consenting adults need to convince you their relationship is valid”? The answer is they don’t. It’s just as valid a relationship as any other whether you think it’s ok or not.

“Well I’m free to judge to them”. Sure just as a racist is able to judge interracial relationships or a homophobe is able to judge gay relationships. And just like those people, you’re a bit of a loser

Like honestly this is just the truth now honestly I should probably reword this by saying if you arent going to be cheap at least do it within your means.

Like if you don't get a second date you arent angry about the money you spent pretty much like going out to the casino don't spend more then your willing to lose.

But honestly doing this will filter people out honestly from the ones who are actually interested and the ones who are just trying to get something out of you.

It is okay to not like to read and it is okay to not be an avid reader but if you have not read a singular book since you graduated schooling it’s embarrassing. I’m not saying you need to read the count of monte cristo or anything. Just for fucks sake pick up A SINGULAR BOOK.

Edit: Yes audiobooks count yes novels count yes any genre counts. It is not about the knowledge you are consuming or the information you are taking in, it is about the cognitive impact of reading.

I am NOT saying you need to become an avid reader just 1-3 books a YEAR; there’s just about no reason you cannot read at least 1 book a year depending on the book that’s a few pages a week maybe even a few pages a month.

Why should you read? You should read because it helps with your cognitive abilities, because too many adults are functionally illiterate, because if you have children or around young children you set the example, because there’s literally no reason to not read one book a year minimum.

Not reading a book in 5, 10, 20 years is fucking embarrassing

No, dude, I don't care if some dumbass on twitter told you that we should kill all men or all men are evil or whatever other essentialist take. I don't judge the majority of men by what is spawned in the darkest depths of incel forums, so please don't judge feminism by some obscene random take you see on Reddit (that is likely some sort of bot anyway), or something some wacky, niche second wave radfem wrote about.

Being poor in America means you are probably forced to live in an area with ghetto people. Believe me these people are the most belligerent and insufferable to be around. Loud yelling outside your apartment at 1 am , car break-in’s and burglaries. If I have to work long hours to not be around these people, so be it.

1. No one is entitled to have a romantic partner

This one should be obvious, and anyone who disagrees is a moron

1. The ability to get a romantic partner doesnt say much about a person's worth

Just because someone is able to get a partner, it doesnt mean that they are a good person or an accomplished individual. This is easy enough to see. The reciprocal, is easy to see, but a lot of people seem in denial: just because someone cant get a romantic partner, it doesnt mean hes a horrible person or a failure in life.

These 2 axioms can counter all gender war bait slop. Just accept them, and move on

* mostly multi-player games

I've heard people say that gaming being more of a gender neutral hobby is part of its downfall and women wanting to be included in everything is a problem wnd yada yada, but man, gaming isnt really a gender neutral hobby at all when you actually experience it.

Trying to play any multi-player game with comms? good luck if its a male dominated game, i still hear people genuinely say the stupid "make me a sandwich" bs.

Trying to play a fighting game? Good luck being harassed for playing a feminine character in an online game, or having a feminine name.

trying to talk about the games you play online? people WILL shut down everything you have to say.

Trying to create gaming spaces intended for women? People will raid them, harass members, doxx people involved, etc.

ETA: this isnt even mentioning the rape threats lmao

Basically title, putting all the money in one pot shows a level of trust and companionship that is needed for a successful marriage. If you can't get there, it means there are still trust issues.

(Yours/mine discretionary cash buckets are logistics, as long as most assets are common this is fine)

Possible exceptions for second marriages/kids outside of this marriage etc

Edit: I don't mind a prenup to have insurance for pre marital assets but if you're thinking about marital assets in that way pre-marriage you're ngmi

Being a low effort / bad dad is the default low bar and for some reason everyone seems to enable it. A lot of dads I see are literally just their wifes third kid.

Maybe back in the day you could get by with the excuse “I provide for my family so…” x y and z. But nowadays both parents in most households work and for some reason dads still think they deserve special treatment and need extra child free time for gaming / hobbies / etc.

Here’s random shit I’ve heard throughout the years lol, I’m sure yall can add more.

“My kids would rather be with their mom”

“When they are older I’ll spend more time with them”

“Women are more nurturing and better suited for care giving”

“I work hard, I just need a break every now and then”

“I don’t know how to cook so my wife does the cooking”

I’m glad women are raising the bar when it comes to dating, can yall raise it some more for parenting? I’m sick of hearing all these crazy stories about moms working themselves to death because dad needs to drink beer and watch the game.

I tend to notice this slightly more with MOC tbh, but WOC definitely aren't exempt. I can tell based off such questions being asked. Example: "Why do black women mainly show interest in me?"

Another example: "White women always seem to ignore me in bars. Why is this?"

Example 3: "Do I, as a ____ man/woman stand a chance with a blonde haired blue-eyed from Scandinavia?

It's not like you're not getting attention at all, but it's ridiculous, at least imho, that the attention doesn't count unless it's from a white person.

Canada has a great reputation because they are constantly compared to the dysfunction of the us. Most of the good things about Canada aren't really that impressive compared to other first world countries.

Canada's Healthcare system is ok, but it's better than the US health insurance nightmare. Same goes with racism/treatment of minorities, crime rates, labor rights, consumer protections, etc.

Is Canada a decent country? Sure. But if it wasn't so close to the US it would not have the positive reputation it does

We often treat men in their 30s and 40s as losers who can't get women in their 30s and 40s. I think this is somewhat accurate at times but I think it's also unfair. Different people want different types of relationships and the ones you can have with a woman who's 22 and one who 42 are very different. The expectations, treatment and appearances that younger women being are just different. One isn't better than the other one either but you just get a different experience.

1. The idea that you must only date people in your exact "life stage" (college student, entry-level professional, mid-career) relies on a highly structured, industrialized view of society.Chronological blueprint is the anglo-american corporate structure where life is treated like a corporate ladder. You go to school, enter the workforce, climb the career ladder, and retire.Your dating choices must follow suit - no room for deviation here.
2. Ironically the "power dynamics" argument wielded by some progressive americans is a concept originally developed by french post-structuralists like Michel Foucault, Jaques Derrida and Gilles Deleuze who argued that "who you are cannot be defined by your demographics", but americans have this inverted. It is now used to argue that your demographics completely dictate your moral agency, vulnerabilities, and permissible relationships.
3. For them relationships are viewed almost like business mergers. The expectation is that partners should be economic and social equals moving at the exact same pace through the capitalist machine. If you step off this track-by marrying much older, staying home, or skipping traditional milestones—online spaces treat it as a psychological flaw rather than a valid lifestyle choice.