I want to start by saying I am child free by choice and do not intend to have children, so this isn’t some excuse for my own parenting or whatever.

I see so many people on all sorts of online platforms complaining that their dog can’t go to restaurants, but loud kids can, or that their dog can’t go on a plane, but a crying baby can. I’m not saying anyone enjoys being on a flight next to a crying child or in a restaurant with loud kids. However, for a society to function, children have to be properly socialized. You didn’t just wake up one day knowing how to act in a restaurant or order for yourself. Even if you don’t remember it, other adults modeled that behavior for you. Does a kid have to be in a five star restaurant? No, and you’d rarely find one there as most parents cannot afford that anyway. However, a chain restaurant or local cafe? Sure.

Otherwise, in 15 years, we will end up with an entire generation that cannot eat a meal without a screen in front of them or ask the waiter for ketchup. And, sadly, in 15 years, your furbabies won’t be around anymore. I love pets, and they are great to have, but we all have a greater social responsibility toward young PEOPLE than pets.

Yes, kids can be so annoying sometimes, especially when parents aren’t doing their part to socialize them. (For example, telling them not to run around on a train car, which I personally see quite a bit.) But that’s really more on the parents than the kids, and if you leave those kids at home with their “laissez faire” parents rather than exposing them to how the normal adult world functions, they’ll be even worse off once they grow up…

And i’m not talking about making friends only with women that you think are attractive or have a crush on.

Talk to women, have basic conversations with women and engage with them in spaces that you spend time in such as fandoms and community spaces. If you learn how to treat women you aren’t attracted to with basic respect and how to talk to a woman in a normal basis it’ll be easier when you come to romantic prospects with other women.

The amount of men I have talked to that are insecure, don’t know how to get dates and don’t think they will ever have a romantic relationship 9/10 NEVER talk to women or have female friends that they spend a significant time with.

Young dumb mad love is an experience you can only get once and have high odds of missing out on the longer you wait. It is a terrible feeling to be the person in their first relationship who is naive and obsessed while the other one is jaded. It is also valuable experience for your future relationships. It is also simply a very fun and fulfilling experience for the most part, and helps you develop as a person.

Obviously, there are dangers of pregnancy, but this can be diminished through education and a good parental relationship. There are dangers of heartbreak too but this is something inherent to the risk of trying to fall in love and shouldnt be feared but accepted.

Waiting until you are older doesnt really reduce any risks as you will still have 0 experience just like when you are younger. Will a highschool relationship last, probably not, but any given relationship is unlikely to last anyway. And it is a beautiful thing when two people do make it from a highschool relationship.

The idea of a site where there are many subs/sections where you can find people like you and talk seems great. Until you realize it's not. Because karma makes it impossible.

You're not really encouraged to speak your mind. You're encouraged to say whatever gets you upvotes. Disagree with the majority, have an unpopular opinion, or say something a subreddit doesn't like, and you risk getting downvoted into oblivion, which then can affect you in other areas on Reddit. Or with some subs, like gaming, you need a bunch of positive karma to post topics, but this means never disagreeing with anyone, as your sub karma stays positive.

I've seen how quickly people can turn against a comment just because it goes against the general opinion of a thread. It doesn't matter how well you explain yourself. Once the downvotes start piling up, other people seem more willing to pile on than actually consider what you're saying. You all love Star Wars, but found one series to not be good? Downvoted into oblivion.

That's the problem with the whole system. It encourages people to follow the crowd instead of thinking for themselves. People delete comments, hold back their real opinions, or carefully word everything just to avoid upsetting strangers. Meanwhile, opinions that are already popular can rack up thousands of upvotes without anyone questioning whether they actually make sense.

And it doesn't help that mods are ironically unmoderated. You may find a niche sub and do well there, but a mod removes you for no reason. Then what? Where do you go for your niche?

And today, Reddit is pretty biased towards certain views. So it alienates about half of the people. Who have little chance of ever talking. Which, of course, leads to people who mainly use Reddit, thinking the world agrees with them because they are, in fact, in an echo chamber.

This feels like a lukewarm take as it’s obvious to anyone who’s played games, read comics, watched TV or even engaged in politics for any amount of time.

And I really don’t think anyone would care if gays came in and enjoyed something like Halo or Marvel, but the problems is they have to change it to appease and validate their identity instead of just enjoying what it is.

When I see polyamorous people, I have questions in my head. My biggest one is that they say they love each other equally, but I don't see how that's possible. All three people can't experience the same things. For example, two of them might talk more than the other about something, or do things together that the third person can't relate to, so it isn't all completely equal.

Maybe it's because I see it like a friendship. In a relationship, two people are going to have similar interests and might do specific things based on those interests. You will always be closer to one person than another because of shared experiences or just personality. You might care for both, but you will always be closer to one of them. I feel like one person will end up feeling left out and not truly part of the group, because you can't give the exact same affection to one that you did to the other.

Maybe I'm just thinking of this differently, or maybe two of them can be closer to each other and they're okay with that. I just think, wouldn't that feel lonely? Or make you feel out of place?"

Sorry if I didn't explain it will

When Goku gets disrespected you don’t see people saying “You just hate Japanese people”

When superman or captain America is disrespected you don’t see people saying “You just hate Americans”

When Spider-Man is disrespected you dont hear “you just hate white men!”

When people shit on deadpool you don’t hear “you hate gay people”

Because people view these characters as characters to be critiqued and will meet you on that ground. They actually respect the characters.

But for some reason when you talk bad of Miles Morales, John Stewart or other dark skin characters the first thing you’re gonna hear is people calling you racist. And that’s because a lot of people don’t like these characters because they’re well written they just like em cause they’re black. They don’t see them as characters just for their skin colour.

I am a regular gooner; I have zero "wild" or outlandish tastes; I have literally no imagination whatsoever, but the amount of dehumanizing, subjugating stuff (for women) that gets recommended to me and that which seems common in porn is genuinely awful.

Violence galore.

Slapping, hitting, tying the woman up, grabbing her tightly by the hair, grabbing her by the arms, twisting her arms and legs as if he's trying to rip a limb off...

Blocking her airways - hand covering the mouth, choking her, keeping her face buried in the pillows by pushing down on the back of her head,..

Her cheeks are red, she has red handprints on her ass/back. Is this supposed to be fun? Is this a good time?

It doesn't seem fun for the woman at all. What excitement can I glean from this? It feels like a punishment for her and me.

Listen, if that's what these female pornstars enjoy and it's all consensual, more power to them.

If you like watching this stuff, if you're into it, go for it. Enjoy. I'm not here to shame you.

My issue is this stuff seems mainstream. Common. Many people like seeing this?

Depressing.

The friend zone is simply a situation where one person has romantic or sexual feelings for another person who only sees them as a friend.

That’s it. That’s the friend zone.

It doesn’t mean the other person owes you sex. It doesn’t mean they’re doing anything wrong by rejecting you. It doesn’t even mean you resent them for rejecting you.

I often see people argue that the friend zone doesn’t exist because nobody is entitled to a romantic relationship. But that’s not actually an argument against the existence of the friend zone. It’s an argument against entitlement.

You can acknowledge that someone has been friend-zoned without suggesting that anyone involved has done anything morally wrong.

The friend zone is a description of a social situation, not a moral accusation.

It never ceases to amaze me how legitimately awful the average person's opinions on criminal punishment are. It's mostly online, but I've heard it IRL as well. Examples of horrible takes I've heard:

• Men convicted of SA should be castrated
• People who get life in prison should just be executed so the tax payer doesn't have to pay for their prison stay
• People who falsely accuse someone should get the same punishment as the other person would've gotten if they had been guilty
• Just general bloodthirstyness for executions and willingness to throw people in prison forever

The only way I can make sense of these takes is that 0 thought was put into them other than "grrrrr criminal bad and must suffer". As cringe as it sounds, when I read/hear stuff like this I feel like I'm dealing with uncivilized savages. All of these opinions fall apart completely when put under even the most surface-level logical scrutiny. That or they're just morally repulsive and you should be ashamed to have had a progressive Western education and still think like a medieval bumpkin.

And the worst part is that it's not harmless conversation. People are out there on the internet or in public calling for people's blood. It's seriously harmful to both the accused and the judicial process as a whole. People who have 0 education on these things should honestly keep their opinions to themselves as they create nothing but problems. Reddit is sadly full of these people. Massively upvoted comments crying for the blood of people that haven't even been convicted yet.

If you can't afford the necessities for your children, including clothes,food,shelter, and toys( it's important for development), or you are barely getting by, do not plan a kid.

(Ik people get pregnant on accident, while using contraceptives or S'ad, this is not about them.)edit:You can also fall into financial times later in life after having kids.

Now,I am not saying that you need to spend $300 per item and get high-end stuff costing thousands and you don't have to be a millionaire, but your kids should not be living like a poor person in the victorian era.

Also, a certain number of kids is too much no matter if you are poor or rich the number of kids someone has should not be a double dight number.if you have enough children to create a football/soccer team it's time to stop.

We have people in their 30s moving back in with their parents that have jobs, careers, lives that don’t align with the “basement dwelling” archetype.

Like, we’re all in our mom’s basement at this point lmao. Unless there’s something I’m missing, but every time I hear someone say it I’m just thinking “well is that so bad now?”

all fashion currently is lacking because of fast fashion. im not talking about the runways or the couture or brands. im talking about the everyday stuff we buy and wear.

but mens fashion in more recent years has been nothing but boring, bland, bleak, i dont know what else. i have never looked at a man and thought he's super well dressed. even the well dressed ones are just picking out well tailored boring clothes. this is at no fault of men but at the ones making the stupidest clothes ever. its all shirts. printed shirts, dress shirts, t shirts, all just shirts. even the groom at his own wedding is wearing a black suit that he can wear at every other occasion for the rest of his life.

its also partly due to homophobia and the fear of other men perceiving them as feminine or gay. as if having a personality or caring about what you wear is feminine? we've also stopped wearing our traditional clothes because it's "too much" and men "don't do too much". why? its now seen as weird to partake in your heritage and culture??? that was the ONE thing men had going for them and it's now poof.

im starting to see this in the womens section as well. i have seen the same 5 winter coats in the same 6 colors in all the stores i went to in THREE COUNTRIES. THREE SEPERATE COUNTRIES. WHY IS NO ONE MAKING CLOTHES ANYMORE ITS ALL THE SAME CHINESE FACTORY. but also the mens thing has been going on for way longer (maybe 30 years? compared to the womens 5)

You can get a hair cut, get bangs, dye your hair, get tattoos, get piercings, get a perm/relaxer, get your eyebrows done, gain/lose weight, gain muscle, wear self tan, hell you can even safely wear colored contacts. I’m not one for plastic surgery, but you can even get a boob job, a nose job, etc etc. And those are just the things I could think of at the top of my head!

People can drastically change their overall appearance to better suit their natural “structure” (the stuff you can’t change) but people act like the only thing you can do to get better looking is wear makeup or get a haircut.

Some people also don’t care about appearance, and that’s totally understandable to me, but if you complain so often but don’t try, that’s when I have a problem. If people actually experimented, I can almost guarantee they’ll find something that works.

Some people will call you “fake” and whatever, but genuinely who cares? Our characters are literally customizable, we can do whatever we want! You only live once, why all the rules of staying in a body or face you don’t like? If you like a style/look, that’s the most genuine thing in my opinion.

The beatles are nowhere near the beach boys and everything I say it people go crazy

The red pill encourages actively treating the opposite gender as tools/resources and not as people and their exploitation for your advantage. Further, it supports a mentally and physically taxing "grindset" which for many of the later in life virgins who partake, does nothing for them romantically or sexually and just wastes their time while enriching red pill influencers.

Meanwhile, the black pill supports lying down and rotting when its clear the cards aren't in your hands. This much better for many reasons. It doesn't harm others. It's more truthful than the red pill for many and stops you from wasting your time for years doing things that never amount to any romantic or sexual success. Furthermore, it stops forever alone types from being exploited by society, pouring more time and resources into it through work while not receiving the same social rewards like romance and respect that most people just normally get going through life.

Why do you keep the organs after death? because in cremation it just gets burned away while in burial it will just get eaten and decompose. Keeping those organs is just selfish in my opinion, those organs could save many which by locking away in your corpse you don't allow them to survive. I also believe it is the last good thing you could do after death by helping those strangers by giving them another chance at life which would have died without those organs.

There's already so many humans on the planet, lots of them are starving and in poverty, crammed into crowded cities.

Companies just want more consumers to squeeze more money out of.

If the issue is aging population, a solution would be if humans could reconnect with their communities because then they could look out for each other. something about the system would have to change where people could afford to care about more than individual survival/success but the way we live right now isn't healthy and there doesn't need to be more humans on a polluted, dying world.

Entirely too many people use this false equivalence of “I’m a parent and you’re not, so of course you can’t possibly understand” or the ever pervasive “you’re not a woman, why do you think you’re qualified to speak on this”. Neither of these statements (or similar) are the appeal to authority y’all think they are. They’re fallacious and merely a tool to silence others.

Edit: a few questions to get y’all’s brain juices flowing: is every computer owner an expert? Does possession of the object inherently make you skilled with the item? Are you automatically qualified to wield a firearm that you purchase? Or is it the training that qualifies you?

George Carlin, Richard Pryor, Eddie Murphy, Dave Chappelle, etc

All are stand-up comedy legends and all relentlessly joked about all races and both men and women. This recent trend to be offended by comedians is stupid.

+ save the mother always
ur lowkey a bad husband if u pick someone u never have even met over ur own wife

Let me explain. I don’t think fraternities are all great places or that all frat bros are good people. I just think it’s rude to group in all of Greek life together - mostly sororities.

As someone in Greek life, it’s discouraging to hear the constant “oh so you pay for friends, party all the time, and discriminate against POC”. We have weekly DEI presentations to encourage understanding and empathy, host events for fundraising at least twice a month for philanthropic efforts for the local community, and welcome everyone in our sorority with open arms without discrimination.

I have always been active in my community even prior to rushing. I accumulated hundreds of community service hours when I was in high school, volunteered every weekend at an animal shelter, and am dedicating my life to public service through legal work (hopefully!). Yet every time I tell someone I’m in Greek life, it’s like that doesn’t matter anymore. I don’t know why people place such a horrific negative stigma and stereotype around us.

As someone who is in a sorority that is “touse”, it’s even worse. People always assume the worse. And I don’t necessarily think it’s fair to hate someone for being part of a sisterhood who is in it for the support, community, and philanthropic efforts.

Accepting constructive answers but please keep it conversational and not condescending or argumentative! I’m not trying to argue, just understand :).

Most people I've talked to don't really like mandatory Gen Ed classes, and I agree. Why should students waste money, time, and energy on a course that is most likely not interesting or something students learned in high school? However, I've seen many people defending them, and I cannot understand why they think their arguments are good.

"They help students who don't know what to major in with finding a degree!" I personally think that if someone is going into college with not even a sense on what they want to major in, they shouldn't be spending so much money going to college. But even if a student doesn't know what to major in, it still isn't a reason to force other students who know for certain what they want to major in to take irrelevant classes.

"But they develop soft skills!" Most of the classes are so surface level that they aren't useful at all. Even if they were useful, they'd still be nowhere near worth it in terms of price. I'd argue that working a part-time job is better for developing soft skills, particularly at communication and teamwork. (I almost forgot to mention that most people who make this argument imply that the only way to develop these soft skills is through Gen Eds, and that there's no way to develop these skills in major-specific courses. While major-specific courses are usually more focused on the subject material, the implication that they don't help at all with soft skills is very ignorant).

"The whole point of college is a well-rounded education, if you want a specific career, then go to a trade school." This argument pisses me off the most. Most hiring managers (especially in non-liberal arts fields) care mostly about the hard skills relevant to the job. How would my knowledge about Theatre help me get a job in Architecture? Even if I wanted to be "well-rounded" and had a hobby that interested me, why would I pay thousands of dollars to take that class when much cheaper alternatives exist? (It's even worse in college because they restrict the topics by category, and make students take 3-9 credits in all of them). And for the people saying to "go to a trade school", tell me what trade school I can go to if I want to be an Engineer or an Accountant? I guarantee if trade schools offered the same degrees as colleges, 95% of people would choose the trade schools.

I did say most Gen Eds in the title. The one exception in my opinion is 3 credits worth of advanced writing. It's something that is usually not covered in high school (if it is, it should be counted as transfer credit) and is applicable to every degree program. Even though I didn't like my advanced writing course, it's the one Gen Ed course I'm willing to tolerate.

There are more arguments defending mandatory Gen Eds in college, but I hit on the ones I see the most. There is no argument that will make me agree with required Gen Eds, especially when they costs tens of thousands of dollars and take up 30-60 credits of a degree (which equates to 1-2 years of time). They're just a straight up scam.

I was at a very beautiful wedding this last weekend that was interrupted by a 5 year old who would t stop crying and the parents did nothing about it.

This wasn’t your normal little cry. You would’ve thought this kid was being murdered.

I’m not mad that he cried. Kids do that. But the parents just sat there and DIDNT DO ANYTHING until someone came and told them to either leave or take him into another room until he could behave himself to which they finally left with no argument.

My thought process is simple. Kid starts crying? Your dog starts whining? You got 5 minutes to figure it out then you need to Take them to the next room and see what’s going on. It can be loud and can ruin the night for others.

It didn’t ruin the wedding I want to make that clear. But people talked about it after and it was definitely memorable.

Police officers(in America)basically have immunity in that if they do something terrible short of blatant murder nothing happens and the taxpayers foot the bill for any lawsuits.