Preface: if you’re here to say “politics shouldn’t matter in a relationship” or “I can’t believe you would let someone’s political beliefs dictate your feelings” move on. It matters to me so I’m asking for advice from those who believe similarly.
I’m a mid 20s female (very liberal) who has recently moved to Austin and I’m starting to notice that 90% of the men on the apps just don’t put any political stance on their profile. In other cities I’ve lived in I would take that as them being secret republicans and really not give them my time of day. In Austin, I really can’t gauge if they are secret republicans or just all extremely apolitical / have no opinion or they are Democrats and just don’t have it listed (which is super odd to me). Why is it taboo in Austin to have your political stance on your profile? Bizarre to me
I’m curious what the other Democrat girlies out there have done to bring up this conversation and how it’s historically gone. I’ve been on dates here already where I bring it up on the first date and they just describe themselves as apolitical but with tons of republican friends but if they end up voting (which they said they probably won’t) they may vote blue.
Would just love to hear from other democrats on their experience dating in Austin and if it’s similar!!
EDIT 1 : so I guess the boys didn’t listen to my preface lmao did not expect this post to get so many people all wound up, so let me add additional context
- I have been on 2nd, 3rd dates with many who aren’t very political but still lean Democrat. I don’t cut it off because of this. Unless you are fully voting for trump I don’t factor that in too much in the beginning.
- I have lived in red and blue cities before, I am just surprised by the apolitical atmosphere of Austin I’ve never experienced before.
- I think it’s fair for me to consider this aspect to a man I would date more deeply in a state where abortion is fully illegal
EDIT 2 :
- So I see I’ve triggered a lot of moderate/conservative snowflakes in the comments! Shouldn’t have been super surprised knowing the apolitical climate I’ve felt here. Thank you for reminding me that most of yall are absolutely insane and I shouldn’t settle for moderate & apolitical men, appreciate every deranged comment reminding me of this💗 I realized the Joe Rogan-sphere was strong in Austin but appreciate yall reinforcing this narrative, I feel more aware for sure.
- I used to say in my profile a few years ago stuff like “don’t match with me if you voted for trump” but as many girlies in the comments have reminded me, men do lie so now i try to bring it up in more subtle ways. It’s scary out there!
- for those assuming im a miserable chronically single blue haired lib girl whose crying at your comments telling me “to go back home”, im doing quite fine for myself in Austin thank you very much. Have been asked out in person here more than any other city and am always the one to ultimately friendzone because of a lack of connection.
- lastly, it seems the comments have lost the plot of my original inquiry. I think if I had known this would blow up I would have phrased things a bit more eloquently but oh well yall now have my random thought I typed in 5 minutes. Thank you to all the girls responding and to the few not completely deranged apolitical moderate men explaining why they identify or exclude it on their profiles. While there are some of yall that seem completely normal, look at your fellow brothers in the comments and you will see why liberal women tend to steer clear (better safe than sorry).