r/SubredditDrama • • Apr 21 '14

Consent drama in /r/gameofthrones. SPOILERS INSIDE DO NOT ENTER OTHERWISE. You have been warned.

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '14

Watch it again dude, she might be saying no but her body language says otherwise. If she was really that against it she would be resisting more than she was.

Good lord. Even in fictional rapes, there are still assholes pulling out the "she totally wanted it, bro!" defense.

That change from the books was so disappointing, though... Sigh.

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u/metallink11 Apr 21 '14

My initial reaction was that it was a big change, but after rereading the passage I'm not convinced it was. When reading the books it's easy to get caught up on the Jaime Lannister redemption train and ignore how seriously awful his behavior was here. I think what really happened is that we initially only saw the event from his point of view and it's only after getting an objective view (the show) that we see just how fucked up it was.

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '14 edited Apr 21 '14

I dunno, dude. In the book she verbally and physically shows interest. They also had sex when he returned in the book.

-Edit: Also, in the book, she says yes several times. Show? Nothin but no. Shits not cool. -

Now, it's quite obvious from earlier she's lost interest in him and then during the entire scene in the sept, she's hitting him, telling him to stop, and saying no. She never verbally or physically shows interest. She just stops struggling. Which is rapey as all hell.

And this isn't the first time the screenwriters did this. Dany and Kal Drogo's wedding night was very much consensual and he was careful in the books. Shit was straight up rape in the show. Not sure why they have to keep adding in rape as a plot device in the show. Especially when its unneeded.

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '14

Plus in the books she's not objecting to the sex. She's objecting to having sex in a crypt where she can get caught.

“No,” she said weakly when his lips moved down her neck, “not here. The septons …”

That being said from Jaime's prospective he would have raped her if she said no anyway.

She pounded on his chest with feeble fists, murmuring about the risk, the danger, about their father, about the septons, about the wrath of gods. He never heard her.

So it's pretty ambiguous.

Anyway, all I know is that, incestuos menstrual sex in the tomb of your dead son was one of the more fucked up moments in the book. And that's saying something

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '14

Not sure why they have to keep adding in rape as a plot device in the show. Especially when its unneeded.

Because that's how the show is billed. "Blood, sex, death and rape." The show's reputation for equal amounts of boobs and horrible shit happening to everybody is a big part of the reason it's so popular. So when a scene doesn't quite seem to live up to the reputation of the show, they get that itch to kick things up a notch.

I assume Lena Headey isn't willing to go nude for the show. They can't kick it up by adding boobs to the scene, so they had to go the other direction.

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '14

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u/seedypete Apr 21 '14

It's not like he was imagining fake dialogue for her in the book; everything she said in that scene was a pretty clear go ahead, and her only concern was about getting caught by the priests and having to explain themselves.

The show was completely different, she clearly didn't want it and he clearly raped her. Which is pretty wildly out of character for both of them, first time I've felt like the show completely missed the point of a scene in the books.

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '14

I'm still more mad that they made Robb Stark marry Talisa because he was stupid.

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '14

Well, we do get Cersei's point of view later on and she looks upon the whole crypt sex rather fondly. Wow, I can't believe I typed that sentence.

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '14

Chill out, raynosity is right. It's not that she didn't want to have sex with Jaime, it's just that she didn't want to do it right there and then. That really wasn't the right place or time. And her objecting was pretty weak, to be honest.

It's not that Jaime was having sex with her without her consent, he was just having sex with her without her consent that time. What a prude you are!

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '14

I'm almost angry about the change from the books - then I remember that nothing could ruin the books for me more than the last two GRRM decided to write....

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u/nancy_ballosky Apr 21 '14

its crazy how this one scene has caused so much controversy. On the list of horrible things to happen in the books, this doesnt even crack the top 10.

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u/derivedabsurdity7 Apr 21 '14

It was a) a dramatic change from the books which many people feel is unjustified and unnecessary, and b) it was performed by someone we're generally supposed to like.

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u/Easiness11 Apr 21 '14

The guy who kicked the child out of the window after he was seen doinking his sister?

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u/seedypete Apr 21 '14

Jaime's a sociopath but he's a generally good-natured sociopath. He wouldn't have just walked up and thrown the kid out a window for shits and giggles, but clearly in Jaime's head (especially at that point in the books, long before his whole redemption arc) concern for Cersei trumps concern for other people.

If Bran had caught him doing literally any other illegal or immoral thing he probably still would've saved him and just laughed off the inevitable trial, it was just bad luck that he happened along for the one secret Jaime cared enough to keep. Not even for his own sake, he clearly doesn't care if people know about him and Cersei, but Cersei cares so it's defenestration time.

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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '14

Yeah, cause that makes him an alpha. Duh.

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u/nancy_ballosky Apr 21 '14

Yea exactly. Idk if we are generally supposed to like anybody. Every character is flawed in some way or another. And forcing yourself on a woman you have previously loved, during a time period where rape doesn't have the same weight as it does now, isn't that huge of a flaw for me.

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u/Outlulz Apr 21 '14

On the flip side of that incident, had Bran told Ned or Robert what he saw Robert would likely have immediately killed Cersei, Jaime, Joffrey, Myrcella, Tommen, and Tyrion and maybe even declared war against Casterly Rock because he's such a hothead.

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u/Outlulz Apr 21 '14

Jaime is one of my favorite characters book 3 and on. I haven't watched this week's episode yet but I would be disappointed if they changed his character from how he is in the books.

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '14

The folks over at r/asoiaf have dubbed this "Rapegate"

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u/selfabortion Apr 21 '14

Jaime is coming.

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '14

You see, this is what happens when you choose the king slaying child murdering sister fucking rapist, but he is our king slaying child murdering sister fucking rapist and we love him all the same

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '14

More like raping your sister in the presence of your dead son's body.

Jaimie

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '14

My favourite thing about GoT drama is how the persistent re-writing of violence, particularly violence against women, into the show when it wasn't in the books is "not that big of a deal," because... Uh... Bad things happen in this universe, guys! It's not like showrunners make consistent, deliberate decisions about the manner in which content is presented to a viewing audience because it is an adaptation, oh no. Westeros is a totally independent universe where things just happen. It's like watching a documentary.

I mean, it's been escalating for a while: Dany and Khal Drogo's initial sexual encounter wasn't a rape in the books, but it was on the show. Talisa was not stabbed in her pregnant belly in the books for various reasons, but on the show it was a centrepiece of the Red Wedding. All that dreadful Theon torture, which went on for a gratuitously long time. Ros, that television amalgamation getting shot full of endless arrows to meet her bitter end... That moment more than any other in the series made me feel so incredibly sick. Why was that in there? To show Geoffrey is the worst? Please, like we didn't already know that.

I remember getting in a huge fight on some AV Club review when that episode aired, because so many people were tirelessly, tirelessly, tirelessly insisting that every violent act was as necessary as can be. We all know that this world isn't sunshine and rainbows... But how fucking brutal and pitch black can you make a world before acknowledging that you're just fetishizing brutality for brutality's sake? How much rape and mutilation and putrefaction do you really need to prove your point about the brutality of the canon and how much is fanservice for sickos? There's no one line, but I honestly think the show has crossed it more than a couple of times. It's difficult to be invested in the story when you find yourself wondering if one of the showrunners has a collection of snuff videos under his bed. (Minor exaggeration, but only minor. You know what I mean.)

As for the specific drama du jour: Cersei wasn't raped by Jamie in the canon, but in the show-- well, if you don't think that's rape I'm utterly and completely terrified of what you think rape is.

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u/Apollos_Anus Apr 22 '14

To be honest, I didn't think anybody thought of Game of Thrones' brutality as a necessary evil. It's obviously in there for shock value in my eyes. I don't think it is overly done or anything. I think it has always been part of the shows schtick.

Another show that does this is The Walking Dead. Even if it is a relatively slow episode they will put in some kind of grotesque zombie death. It doesn't bother me outside of being bad writing, but it is still noticeable.

I did actually think the Joffrey thing added some depth, just because he deviated from the norm of the world of basically every guy sleeping with prostitutes and just murdered them instead. He was already terrible, but that made him twisted on a much more "pure evil" kind of level.

That said, tons of the shows brutality is just in there for "brutal kill" moments. It might just not be your cup of tea.